If you think you can’t afford a destination wedding planner, you can.
A destination wedding planner can save you money. Sounds odd. But I’ll explain in a mo. A wedding planner will make sure your hair isn’t falling out when you arrive at your dreamy destination. Why would you be losing your hair? Because you’ve nearly lost your mind trying to plan everything.
And, they will allow your friends and family to have a holiday too. They’ve shelled out serious money and taken holiday time to be with you. So let them enjoy it. Planning a DIY destination wedding means your guests will have responsibility for something in the lead-up and on the day. So everyone has a job to do on their wedding holiday. Is that really what you want for your guests? Hold on, I’ll elaborate in a sec.
In short, outsource the wedding planning, my friends. Because it’s not one for the faint of heart. I’ve witnessed the results in my years as a wedding celebrant. It’s not pleasant trying to help couples who are frazzled and stressed when they should be having the time of their lives. Watching them organise everything until the very moment they slip into their fancy wedding gear. Then resuming their planning duties until the end of the festivities. It’s a new kind of hell.
How do we find the money for a wedding planner?
Shave a few “shiny things” from your mood board and find the dollars. Years after your wedding no one will remember the “shiny, expensive nice to haves”. Do you really need the fireworks? The gold plated dinner sets? The guest packs? The $2,000 wedding arch? Flowers are expensive friends.
Your guests won’t notice. But they will remember the moments, the people and how much fun you had. And so will you.
Prefer poolside Pina Colada’s while your planner runs around, planning? Me too.
Why do I need a wedding planner for my destination wedding?
Because they give you peace of mind. Rest easy knowing they are doing all “the stuff”. You’re spinning enough plates. Your wedding should be fun, not another “job”!
1. The first vital reason: your wedding planner will preserve your mental health.
You’re wanderlusts. A destination wedding is your dream come true. It’s awesome. Kudos. Scooting off to your favourite place in the world, with your nearest and dearest to get married. Such an adventure. You’re trendsetters. Smashing.
Arranging the adventure from afar, not so much fun. It’s stressful.
Are you ready to scour the internet and make all phone calls in the quest for the right suppliers? Not to mention to follow up and the co-ordination, from another country. What if English is not the first language?
Here’s a small list of some of “the things” you’ll need to pull together:
- hair and makeup
- wedding cake
- stationery and printers
Of course, once you do arrive in your paradise, you’ll need to meet all these people in person. Finer details. Payment. The list goes on.
I haven’t even mentioned the actual wedding day. No planner means you’re co-ordinating that too. Set up and clean up when it’s all over. Ghastly.
Do you have a headache yet? I do.
A great wedding planner will make your dream a reality. You’ll never see the dedicated time behind the scenes. The hours spent on the detail. The negotiation. Sourcing suppliers. Insisting outcomes are exacting. On your wedding day, they’ll be there from the early morning until the wee hours of the next day. Being in the same location means they can see, touch, feel everything. Complete control.
They make it look easy.
Being more inclined to exciting pre-wedding celebrations. I’m already hearing you thinking “I need you, wedding planner.”
Do it. Hand it over. Then it’s about saying “yay” or “nay” to their suggestions. Leaving plenty of time for your pre-holiday wedding celebrations.
You’re here to get married and have the time of your life. Not lose your mind.
2. A wedding planner will know all the local suppliers, the best venues and the local scoop.
Get ahead of the game and find your wedding planner before you make any other decisions. They have the local scoop. Reliable suppliers. Dodgy suppliers. The suppliers who can deliver on your particular vision. They’ll save hours of your time.
If you know the country or town you want to get married, and unsure about the venue. Your planner can provide oodles of recommendations and liaise with the venue throughout. All you do is turn up!
Some venues come with a planner included in the price – bonus. Be sure you fall in love with the venue planner before you fall in love with the venue. You’ll be relying on that person.
3. A great wedding planner will get you the best prices.
This one is a biggin. Long established relationships in the wedding industry are worth their weight in gold. Like most industries, loyal customers earn bonus privileges. Weddings are no different. Industry pals receive preferred pricing. Or at least pricing that is less than retail. The price you’ll pay as a retail customer will be higher.
The price difference your planner can achieve can come close to covering their fee.
Are your stress levels coming down?
4. Second vital reason: Your friends and family can enjoy the fun.
Some couples plan on asking their friends and family to help share the load. I get it. They are choosing to spend their holiday time and hard-earned cash to celebrate with you. Is it fair to give them a “to do” list? Your wedding attendants will have their support roles. They’re honoured to support you. Does it extend to cleaning up at the end of the evening? Making sure the gifts are safe. The decor removed and the place left tidy? After an evening of champagne and dancing, it’s a big ask for anyone.
Naa. Not cool.
5. When the party is over, you don’t need to worry about the washing up.
It’s the end of the evening. You’ve had the day of your life. Your last guests are leaving, (or staggering) home. Guess who is there, ready to start the massive clean up and set down: your wedding planner. Yep. Nothing to see here. Head for your room as newly-weds.
A destination wedding is one of the most incredible and mind-blowing ways to get married. It’s a blast. Make every single part of it fun and memorable. Have a blast!
Get yourselves a wedding planner. Can you afford not to?
Before I sign off I’m going to leave you with a real-life example?
I was officiating a wedding. Picture perfect day overlooking the ocean. The setting was serene. Decor amazing. The scene was set.
Fifteen minutes before the guests were due to arrive a huge gust of wind swept half the arch and the flowers away. It wasn’t pretty.
The florists had gone.
Picture yourself without a planner. Fifteen minutes before your wedding, you receive a call your arch is in pieces. What would you do?
This couple had a planner. She planner stopped, dropped and engineered a beautiful fix in under ten minutes. The couple and their guests were none the wiser.
I’ll leave that there. Imagine dealing with that if you did not have a wedding planner?
xx, Wedding Celebrant
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Leanne Summers is a copywriting virtual assistant dedicated to wedding creatives. Based in Vietnam, she works with wedding creatives all over the globe. Helping them build their businesses with words targeting their ideal customers. As well as helping wedding professionals focus strategically on their business by taking the “day-to-day” keeping them stuck. A lawyer by trade with 19 years experience in the wedding, tourism and hospitality industries. Leanne is dedicated to helping you find new clients and grow your wedding business. Read more about Leanne here.
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